Comments on: Explaining miscarriage to small children http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/ permaculture on the new home front Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:23:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: DG http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-90 DG Wed, 21 Mar 2007 11:44:08 +0000 http://www.becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-90 Do you think there is a conflict between your desire to be green, and to have more children? e.g. see : http://observer.guardian.co.uk/comment/story/0,,2036598,00.html David. Do you think there is a conflict between your desire to be green, and to have more children?

e.g. see : http://observer.guardian.co.uk/comment/story/0,,2036598,00.html

David.

]]> By: Emily http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-85 Emily Mon, 05 Mar 2007 07:32:17 +0000 http://www.becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-85 I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It must be a difficult time for all of you. Children process information in an apparently simplistic way only to ask again about something you told them months ago. For example, this weekend we told Molly that my aunt's dog had died and she loved that dog immensely. She was quiet about it and asked if my aunt's dog was with her gran's dog in doggie heaven (urgh! Philosphy questions before 9am). Then when we went over to cheer my aunt up she handed over a secret big of paper which was a drawing of the dog, my aunt and my uncle, all happy together, she said. Very sweet and goes to show she might not have said much about it but she was thinking about it all. I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It must be a difficult time for all of you. Children process information in an apparently simplistic way only to ask again about something you told them months ago. For example, this weekend we told Molly that my aunt’s dog had died and she loved that dog immensely. She was quiet about it and asked if my aunt’s dog was with her gran’s dog in doggie heaven (urgh! Philosphy questions before 9am). Then when we went over to cheer my aunt up she handed over a secret big of paper which was a drawing of the dog, my aunt and my uncle, all happy together, she said. Very sweet and goes to show she might not have said much about it but she was thinking about it all.

]]> By: jax http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-88 jax Thu, 01 Mar 2007 22:40:57 +0000 http://www.becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-88 I think the truth is a good thing, but only when you are ready to hand it out. And for some ppl, that might not be ever. Do be prepared for them to continue to deal with it in their own way - I thought that Small hadn't really noticed what we were telling him back in November, but he's just started telling ppl about his brother who died, so I assume something did sink in. Big, on the other hand, just wants to know when we're going to try again! (which was just as disconcerting in some ways). I think the truth is a good thing, but only when you are ready to hand it out. And for some ppl, that might not be ever.

Do be prepared for them to continue to deal with it in their own way – I thought that Small hadn’t really noticed what we were telling him back in November, but he’s just started telling ppl about his brother who died, so I assume something did sink in.

Big, on the other hand, just wants to know when we’re going to try again! (which was just as disconcerting in some ways).

]]> By: lib http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-89 lib Wed, 28 Feb 2007 02:07:17 +0000 http://www.becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-89 you are unbelievable! I think you are so intuitive with your kids that it would have been right for them however you chose to do it. Just make sure you go easy on the center parcs cycling and try and get into the spa! much love, lib xxx you are unbelievable! I think you are so intuitive with your kids that it would have been right for them however you chose to do it. Just make sure you go easy on the center parcs cycling and try and get into the spa!
much love,
lib
xxx

]]> By: Merry http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-86 Merry Tue, 27 Feb 2007 13:53:09 +0000 http://www.becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-86 Sorry to hear that, i hope you get back on your feet soon. I've always felt that it is easier to be open, because i always believed that if anything went wrong i'd need people to know so they could support me. That proved to me to be true, for me, last year when we had a series of difficult decisions and experiences over an early pregnancy. I couldn't have got through without being open and receiving the love and care of those able to give it. That said, i couldn't have handled my kids' sadness too, so i think you were very brave. Best wishes. Sorry to hear that, i hope you get back on your feet soon.

I’ve always felt that it is easier to be open, because i always believed that if anything went wrong i’d need people to know so they could support me. That proved to me to be true, for me, last year when we had a series of difficult decisions and experiences over an early pregnancy. I couldn’t have got through without being open and receiving the love and care of those able to give it.

That said, i couldn’t have handled my kids’ sadness too, so i think you were very brave.

Best wishes.

]]> By: Rach http://becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-87 Rach Tue, 27 Feb 2007 12:15:30 +0000 http://www.becomingdomestic.co.uk/2007/02/27/explaining-miscarriage-to-small-children/#comment-87 Think that you handled that one perfectly. Children know when there is a problem and trying to hide your sadness is not going to work. I think you've saved them alot of anxiety by being honest and reassuring them that you are a bit sad but will be ok. Not an easy subject, especially when dealing with your own sadness too my darling xx Think that you handled that one perfectly. Children know when there is a problem and trying to hide your sadness is not going to work. I think you’ve saved them alot of anxiety by being honest and reassuring them that you are a bit sad but will be ok.
Not an easy subject, especially when dealing with your own sadness too my darling xx

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